This is a topic that I had hesitated to blog about because I felt it might take offense to some, but I think that this will benefit some people. So, the title of this post explains it all, your question is why do women do this?
Well let's see maybe it's because of there own insecurities, or maybe it's just plain blindness. Many also ask why do women always go for the guy that treats them like they are worth nothing, I from my own experiences can answer these questions. Let me give my own past experiences and reasoning and then speak my full opinion of why this may be occurring.
I would always choose the guy that was the bad boy, the guy that was so good-looking, who had that smooth talk that somehow would get every girl's attention, including mine. Once I was able to get the guy, everything would seem great at first but once time progressed things began to change drastically! He would rarely text or call, was never on time whenever something was planned. He always managed to find anyway to avoid me and treat me bad. Whether it was name calling or even just flirting with other girls. Now your probably thinking to yourself right now, what the heck was wrong with her, why didn't she leave him. Well, to answer your question, I stayed with him because I loved him with all my heart and deep down inside I had always thought that maybe he would change. Did he? No. The fact of the matter is nobody can change you, anyone can say that and believe that it is possible, but in all reality it cannot happen. The person has to be willing to change on their own.
Now, this is my opinion on why this may be occurring with many women, and just my own outlook on this specific topic.
I think a big part of it is many gals like bad boys. The bad boy, when he wants something, he definitely will not beg pretty please. He just grabs what he wants. Many--not all--women get thrilled by this unbridled desire and dominance.
The bad boy does this because he's not afraid. He's not afraid it will alienate her because he says to himself "if the girl likes it, there's more where she came from." Whereas gentlemen appreciate a woman's individual attributes and are afraid of losing one who seems like a good one. This fearlessness of the bad boy makes him seem more virile and therefore more appealing to women.
It is indeed very sickening to hear from women "there's no good men out there" when the real problem is the preference they show for bad boys and attached men who are weak enough in character to be receptive to other woman's flirtations.So it seems like they want bad boys. But actually they want handsome, interesting, highly coveted and confident guys... but those are often used to being wanted and therefore like to play with those girls. And the girls don't care until they are crying and left alone. This is still something that I still try to understand, but my advice to those who are in a situation such as this, give the nice ones a shot, think about what you need, what you deserve. I believe that all women deserve a wonderful man that will treat them with great respect, love only them and show them what real love is. I am tired of seeing such amazing girl's being treated in such awful ways by their boyfriends, husbands.. etc. It's such a touchy subject, but I felt that this is something that needs to be spoken about. Maybe this will help someone out there who is struggling with this type of situation, and if it does I feel so grateful and to have touched, helped someone in need of advice or even just that little push to get them to get out of a relationship like that.
All I can say is that from my own experience I have overcame what I call the bad boy syndrome, I gave it time and waited for that one that was going to be wonderful and who was going to treat me the way I should. Before I knew it he came along, Cesar, who has been my boyfriend for about seven months, loves me with all his heart and treats me better than I've ever been treated. He is amazing, more than I ever asked for. Always thinking of me, never letting me down. Just there for me for anything, through everything, and I am truly grateful.<3
Love Story: My uncle Javier & fiance Diandra, soon to be wife! Let's see how to describe there love, one word WOW! The love they share is just so pure and beautiful, they've shown others what real love looks like, including myself. Just being the amazing people they're already, show there unconditional love for one another with passion and happiness. It's just too cute! :) I love you guys.